Divorce Care Group

I went to church tonight. I mean I physically showed up to a conference room in the church office for a Divorce Care group meeting. I think one of the pastor mentioned it to me several years ago but it’s the first time the group met since then. Unfortunately, there are only two participants, including me. There was a pastor leading the group, and two guests who were divorced, met at a previous Divorce Care group meeting, and got remarried to each other.

The course is supposed to run for 12 weeks and includes videos and discussion. I believe we are cutting it down to only four weeks. We talked for a bit, watched a short video, then the pastor threw out some questions for discussion. It was a good meeting, though having a few more participants would probably help the discussion. Also there is no remote option. I had asked about joining on Zoom or something but for this kind of group, remote participation is likely not ideal.

At first, I felt embarrassed even attending the group. It’s been just over 14 years since my divorce has been finalized. A lot of people think I should have gotten over it by now and moved on. I think I mostly just ignored the issue and never processed or grieved properly. That’s why after so long, I still have dreams and thoughts that pop up randomly.

As I mentioned before, I see a lot of patients with spousal support. I think that’s great if you have it. However, if you are single when you start dialysis, it’s going to be much harder to find a partner? Who wants to go out/get married to someone which such a high mortality rate, can’t travel anywhere, and needs to go to the dialysis center three times a week?