I went to the second out of four meetings for Divorce Care at church. This time, there was one more “guest” so we had six people. He took the came course two years ago except they went through 10 weeks instead of four this time. I believe he’s been divorced for about three years and he is about to get engaged again. The other two guests who also showed up last week met each other at a previous Divorce Care group.
The topic this time was on loneliness and the difference between being alone and lonely. I think I’m okay being alone since I’m more of in introvert. I don’t have to be out partying every weekend; actually I’m a bit uncomfortable at large social gatherings. I remember going with some friends to check out some student organizations at UCLA, probably ACA (Association of Chinese Americans) or CSA (Chinese Student Association). I found a bunch of pretentious people trying to impress each other and not a lot of fun. However, loneliness is different. Part of it is getting used to the missing person that was always there while you were married. I was married for seven years and during that time, we were apart only when I was on short-term mission trips, and when we separated of course.
I think it was good hearing other people share their experiences, though I keep thinking I should have adjusted better after 13 years of divorce. Still, how do you ever get over your first love? Just because they’re not part of your life anymore doesn’t mean it’s easy to forget about them.
Life with chronic diseases 